In life, things happen for a reason and divorce is one of those life events that just doesn’t happen by accident. In a marriage, whether it’s been a year or 20 years, problems tend to build up over time. If one or both of the spouses chooses not to share how they’re feeling, the probability of reaching a divorce at that point is very likely.
Based on a survey conducted by the National Fatherhood Institute, the top reasons for divorce in the U.S. across all demographics included a lack of commitment by one or both partners, too much arguing, and infidelity. In today’s day and age, more marriages end in divorce, we’ve compiled a list of the top ten “symptoms” or reasons why divorce happens.
10 Reasons Why Divorce Happens
1. Lack of communication. This is one of the major reasons why divorce happens. Distance is created quickly if you don’t share your feelings, don’t tell your partner what’s happening, and keep your feelings to yourself. A successful relationship constantly keeps the lines of communication open.
2. Finances. Money talks and can make your life better or in some cases worse than you were. If money becomes a consistent topic of disagreement, the road to divorce is certain.
3. Feeling constrained. You may feel your marriage is holding you back from achieving goals and taking opportunities. If your partner can’t support you, then they don’t support the marriage.
4. Trust. Do you really trust your spouse? Trust is one of the leading factors in having a successful relationship and marriage. Your marriage is unlikely to survive if you don’t trust your spouse.
5. Expectations from each other. When expectations aren’t met, it can put a strain on the relationship. This leads to a personality conflict because one or the other spouse won’t bend to sacrifice their time and comfort.
6. Your spouse doesn’t understand / fulfill your needs and desires. It’s common knowledge that we all have different needs and wants. A partner who won’t acknowledge your interests and desires won’t go the distance to fulfill your needs and wants.
7. Quick change in lifestyle. Couples that can’t compromise and meet in the middle are unable to adapt to new changes and be together in harmony.
8. Insecurity. Jealousy and insecurity can lead to fights, and questioning each other’s intentions can put a dent into trust and your relationship moving forward.
9. Religious and cultural differences. Religious beliefs and cultural values can cause conflict, which affects the way you live your life and raise your children. If you aren’t committed to adapting and practicing these values, this can be an ultimate deal breaker.
10. Abuse. Lastly, if you’ve been in a situation where your partner has been abusive or controlling in any manner, discuss this rationally with your spouse. If need be, contact a trusted family, friend, or your attorney about this matter.
Before You Say The ‘D’ Word
When a person has a valid reason to divorce, he or she knows when to go through the process. Before you consider the “D Word,” speak to an experienced family law and divorce attorney to discuss your case and options. A divorce lawyer can act as both a counselor and sounding board for you during this stressful life event.
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