Suicidal Gunman Surrenders After 6-Hour Standoff

Novato stay-at-home dad barricaded himself and his estranged wife inside a home before releasing her and giving up, police say.

A 43-year-old Novato gunman faces felony domestic violence and false imprisonment charges after being arrested late Friday night following a six-hour standoff with special-response officers, said Saturday.

The man who had barricaded himself and his estranged wife inside the Arthur Street home surrendered to police and was arrested at 1:43 a.m. Saturday, Lt. Keith Heiden said. The woman sustained a minor injury suffered during a struggle with the suspect.

Richard Michael Rudy, who lives in the 600 block of Arthur in the Presidents neighborhood, was being held on $500,000 bail at Marin County Jail.

Heiden said Rudy led his estranged wife to believe that she would be picking up the couple's children at the home Friday evening, but the kids were with another family member at another location.

The woman, 42, became concerned when she noticed that doors and windows had been boarded up, Heiden said. She made an attempt to leave, but the man restrained her, then threatened to kill himself with a handgun, the police report said. The woman was able to make a call to police at 7:53 p.m.

Rudy continued to make suicidal threats and the police department brought in its special response unit and crisis negotiation teams. It took several more hours before Rudy released the woman and then surrendered, ending an incident that lasted 5 hours and 50 minutes from the time of the first call.

Officers found the handgun and several more firearms upon searching the home, Heiden said.

Rudy, who listed his occupation as a stay-at-home father when he was booked at jail, was a boys lacrosse coach at nearby Novato High School. He faces felonies for wielding a firearm, inflicting injury on a spouse/cohabitant and false imprisonment. He also faces a misdemeanor charge of damaging a wireless device.

randomguy May 07, 2012 at 03:01 AM
your correct Dexter...... until the facts are in...he may have not had it to her head...but the charges were, felonies for wielding a firearm, inflicting injury on a spouse/cohabitant and false imprisonment! ......it does not matter what body part he had the gun on her...She was fearing for her life regardless if the gun was to her head or not...and your correct he was suicidal... fortunately it ended the best way it could of...and not a murder suicide......hats off to the novato police and their great work of diffusing the situation...Mr Rudy does need help but his problems just got worse and now he has the legal wall to deal with plus his internal battles...best of luck to him and his family no one wishes this on any family....
Bob T May 07, 2012 at 03:32 AM
random you should probably stay that way. no offense, but you don't know the family or the student-athletes. I do, and your blame game psycho babble is pointless. Yes, we are aware there is a legal battle ahead. Mike never threatened to hurt anyone but himself. This man is a 2 time war vet and deserves our thanks and prayers. I will proudly stand beside this man in whatever crisis he may face.
whocaresaboutlacrosse May 07, 2012 at 09:00 AM
"My prayers" go out to his estranged wife who has to deal with the b.s. and the only thing people seem to care about is the lacrosse team - who gives a sh*t. You are all selfish.
debbie borg-tedrick May 07, 2012 at 01:18 PM
I am with you Bob. Not to mention, his family will be behind him 100%, He is a 2 time war veteran, and unless you have walked in his shoes, there is no room to judge or to speculate. I stand behind this man everyday
Lax parent May 07, 2012 at 01:24 PM
Mike you have always been so good to our son and for that we will always be grateful. We will pray for you and your family.
IcareaboutLacrosse May 07, 2012 at 08:36 PM
Number 1, I care about lacrosse. Number 2, Rudy was a great person and a friend to both the Varsity and Junior Varsity lacrosse teams. He was a mentor to all of us, both on and off the field. The reason why so many people are commenting about the lacrosse team and the championships is because he had a direct impact on our lives through lacrosse. And responding to your comment, "the only thing people seem to care about is the lacrosse team - who gives a sh*t." that is an extremely inconsiderate and disrespectful statement. The lacrosse team is deeply impacted by al of this so obviously people will be caring about the team.
shatteryourrosecoloredglasses May 07, 2012 at 10:02 PM
YES, only comment worth reading. If all these comments are a reflection of the caliber of people that live in this community You are all Pathetic. How did this man even become a coach? Someone that behaves in this way (plotting to kill himself & the mother of his children) Is NOT acting spontaneously!!! He would have exhibited Pre-Incicdent Indicators!!! these are little red flags that should have been going off regarding his personality or behavior prior to his murder-suicide attempt. My thoughts and prayers go out to his children that have emotionally lost a father and any sense of security they ever had. My prayers go out to his wife to heal and be strong as she faces the challenges of a single parent with fatherless children. My prayers go out to his family, his parents and all the pain that such a selfish act excretes. I hope he is punished to the full extent of the law.
communityguy May 07, 2012 at 10:54 PM
I'd like to start by saying I wish Ms. Rudy & children the best on their road to recovery - I'm extremely saddened that you have experienced such horrific circumstances. Mike, you're a good man and I hope you get the help you need, comrade. Mike has, obviously, positively influence several of our youth as their leader and coach. I think this situation shows that even the best leaders need somebody to turn to during hard times and I think this person very well may have been his wife. To lose that emotional backbone through a divorce is a tragedy for any man who loves his wife and children. This doesn't justify any of his actions. Since Mike selflessly served our country through two wars, I honestly believe that we can't overlook PTSD. It is very real disorder and only recently getting the attention it deserves. On top of that, Mike lost a friend when he was involved in a unthinkable boating accident... I don't think anybody will understand what it's like to be in his shoes. This still doesn't justify his actions. Whatever the circumstances, I hope the entire Rudy family gets the help they need and grows strong through this experience. LAX athletes: take the positive values that Mike has exemplified and taught your team and apply those to your season and your life as you grow into strong leaders that will one day give back to your community as Rudy has done.
Brent Ainsworth (Editor) May 07, 2012 at 11:01 PM
Right on, Debbie. Thanks for keeping it classy.
communityguy May 07, 2012 at 11:04 PM
@ shatteryourrosecoloredglasses: "You are all Pathetic", really? I'm sure you have served your country and I'm sure you contribute extensive hours giving back to your community. I'm also sure you realize, through your personal relationship with Mike, that he's a good man without a criminal past. I'm also sure that only you on your high horse can identify these per-incident indicators, even if there were none. My only hope is that you live outside our great community. You make me sick. Thanks for your "prayers" to the Rudy family and I pray that you seek the help you need as your post sends several "red flags" of the problems and insecurities in your life.
Erica B May 08, 2012 at 03:02 PM
Does "shatteryourrosecoloredglasses" have a PhD? Unless you have some insight and medical background you have absolutely no right to comment on red flags or indications of this tragedy! You have just added to everyone's stress level, including his family, friends, colleagues and his team! None of these individuals should be looking back and questioning what they should have seen and could have done. Again people seem to embellish the story, as you now mention "murder", get your facts straight, that was NOT a charge. The fact is no one knows what happened except for his wife and himself, so stop making things up.
Dan Steadman May 08, 2012 at 05:57 PM
I am appalled at the heartless comments and lack of compassion for the entire Rudy family over this tragic event. I have known Mike most of his life and obviously he needs help, but thank goodness things did not turn out a lot worse. Generations of the Rudy family have tirelessly given to this community for many years and I can only imagine the pain that this family is feeling. Mike and Mikey grew up in this town and along with their children and families need our support and should not be subjected to this type of hateful blabber.
DeMaur Herrera May 08, 2012 at 09:16 PM
Mike Rudy was an asset to our community and has shaped our boys for the better. We as a community should stand together to support him and his family...not tear him down! Mike had the courage in the end to do the right thing despite his feeling of hopelessness. This is to be commended!
Bob T May 08, 2012 at 11:16 PM
Our young men begin their playoff run this afternoon. Good luck to them and their opponents for an injury free game. They will be playing to make Mike proud. Mike, we keep you and your family close in our hearts and our thoughts.
Jason P May 09, 2012 at 05:59 AM
I am shocked that the rhetoric has focused on the lax team,and there coaching decision's.Energy and concern/prayers in my opinion should be directed towards the victim's The Rudy Family,including Mike.We must remember Mike served valiantly in the Iraq war( round one).I am only reminding the community his wife and children will need the support and compassion of all who are close to them.Furthermore hopefully Mike can now get the mental help he desperately need's.Please try to refrain from unnecessary judgement's and all be thankful no one was seriously hurt.Noato's finest should be praised for there professionalism and the positive outcome in a difficult situation,especially hitting so close to home.
Kenny B May 09, 2012 at 05:59 AM
Nice to see some compassion in this town, though no mention of what his estranged wife might have been feeling after being tricked into going into the house and being restrained, in any of the comments....
Kristie May 09, 2012 at 02:56 PM
This is the most well put of all the comments I have read. Thank you Diane. As someone who has dealt with family suicide I know the the dark place that a person goes to when they get to that point of attempting it. I hope that Rudy and his family get the help they need to come out of this in a better and stronger place. As a parent of a Novato varsity LAX player I hope that the boys can understand this very sad situation and stay strong through this week of MCALs. Mike Rudy was a wonderful person and coach to my son. As many have expressed I have he and his family in my prayers.
Kristie May 09, 2012 at 03:02 PM
Well said Jason. You have more wisdom than many adults.
Kristie May 09, 2012 at 03:10 PM
I think you are missing the point. Lacrosse was a huge part of Mike's life and as a coach he has been part of my son's life for 3 years. He has supported, encouraged, challenged and cared about my kid. We know him through lacrosse. He has positively impacted many many kids through his coaching. His team is trying to understand why their friend and coach "lost it". It is clearly tough for anyone the understand. But I think even harder for a teenager. That's why lacrosse comes up.
Dan May 09, 2012 at 04:23 PM
Mike and His ex have been together since high school and this man was so desperate for help that he went to this level of extreme where was the community when he needed us. I've known them both for almost 30years and mike since grade school and he feels lost because no one wanted to get involved since everyone was friends with both and I'm sure he felt abandon. He obviously neededs help. He theatened himself out of desperation, for something he has only known, where is peoples compassion..... Do not judge we will have god for that soon enough amen.
Bob T May 10, 2012 at 06:39 AM
This is my last post here as I really have no time or desire to argue with internet losers. While I would love to educate someone as shallow and bitter as yourself on the essence of compassion, community, teamwork, commitment and perseverance, I fear those concepts are quite a bit beyond your comprehension. Your ugly rants display an inner hatred of self and insecurities that are best left to the mental health community. I could try to explain that a coach and his players develop a familial bond over years of hard work and contributions toward a greater goal, but you would not understand. I'm sorry you were picked last on the playground, but as an adult you really should be over it by now.
why do you have to hate May 11, 2012 at 03:50 AM
My prayers go out to the Rudy family and I hope they have everyones support during these hard time. I have been coached by Mike and I know that he is an extremely great guy. This one incident does not represent him at all and I am ashamed that people can show so much hate towards someone who is going through such a hard time. I also know that Mike served for our country and has been trying to get over the horrible things he had to witness. Lastly, Mike has two amazing kids who are trying to get through these hard time, so if you are just going to bash on someone who you clearly dont know very well please realize that you are hurting people who just want the best for Mr. Rudy
LAX Parent May 11, 2012 at 05:13 AM
You don't know mike Rudy until you have been close with him like my teammates and myself he is a great coach and a great guy who just happened to snap. Don't be so quick to judge until you know his life story. He is a great person and coach and my teammates would 100 percent back me up on this statement. Walk in his shoes before you judge him. He was always there for us when we needed him most and he brought us to where we are now...the Mcal championship game. If it weren't for him we would not be where we are. It is safe to say he is the best coach I have ever had. On that note we are going to win the championship game for ourselves and Rudy.
why do you have to hate May 11, 2012 at 06:28 AM
good luck to you and the rest of your team. Nice win over mc
LAX Parent May 11, 2012 at 04:56 PM
I'm not backing him I am just saying that you shouldn't judge a person when you don't know his life. You don't know what he was going through and you don't know how his kids or their mother feel about the situation. Us as players/parents know the most about the situation because we are all close with Rudy's kids and friends. Like I said before you don't know him until you walk in his shoes.
Joe Hornet May 17, 2012 at 06:15 PM
He has no shoes that validate luring his wife into isolation, pulling a gun on his wife and holding her hostage. Nothing about his lacrosse coaching cannot mitigate the violence of the act.
Novato Chess Club May 18, 2012 at 10:00 PM
Amen Joe Hornet
outside eyes May 30, 2012 at 06:45 PM
I don't know what to say, it sickens me that a majority are worried about lacrosse...blahblahblah.. The man was/is sick and that is fact, I agree with joe hornet. I just hope for the mother and children that they may live a normal life sometime in future. Thank you to NPD for the great work.
Jeff August 30, 2012 at 07:26 PM
I have not seen Mike in almost ten years. I remember him as a good Man and someone who loved life and his Wife. Not sure what happened but help not punishment is what Mike needs, I think he is worth it. As for the Youth Athletic Parents you have been what is wrong with youth athletics for generations. Parents were idiots when I was a kid and after 9 years of Little League, Pop Warner and Lax Coaching the adults screwed up the experience (and the kids) I coached for Love of The Game. Not to sound too squishy but a little LOVE goes a long way in stressful times. Get well Mike
NovatoAVID December 06, 2012 at 02:36 PM
The verdict is in.... http://www.marinij.com/novato/ci_22101704/novato-combat-vet-sentenced-holding-wife-hostage-armed


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