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Let's Stop Guilt-Tripping Marin

We care, we give, but we still get chided.

Earlier, Patch linked to a story from the Huffington Post, for a project called California Watch, written by Patricia Leigh Brown. Ms. Brown has written for the Philadelphia Inquirer, the New York Times and has been based at the San Francisco bureau since 2000, so perhaps she lives in Marin and writes from her personal experiences here?

The title of the article reads: Marin County Inequality: Study Shows Poverty Exists Alongside Wealth. Do not think me unkind, but my first thought was, duh.

When I lived in West Chester County, Pennsylvania, poverty (mine) existed alongside wealth. I was living in a third-floor walkup while stately horse farms dotted the nearby landscape.

When I lived in Atlanta, I lived in a small two-bedroom apartment in De Kalb County where there were also plenty of beautiful southern mansions.

When I lived in Wilmington, Del., I shared part of a funky old house with six people directly across from a super upscale development — I think it might be where Vice President Joe Biden has his place today.

And when I lived in Washington, D.C. I lived in a really gross high rise on 14th and Rhode Island that housed blacks, seniors and students; the hookers worked outside. One night an arson threw a fire bomb into our building and set it on fire. I’ll never forget negotiating around the flames to get out. I had on a yellow terry cloth bathrobe and my pajamas and luckily I had the good sense to grab my wallet and my toothbrush. The next clothes I wore were donated from the church across the way where we were evacuated. They were the kindest, most considerate and generous people I’ve ever met, and they were all poor African Americans.

The congressman I worked for lived in an exquisite brownstone in Georgetown on the other side of town.

I was a single white female trying to pay my way through college, law school, an internship and my first job.

Ms. Brown goes on in the article comparing the Canal area and Ross — population 12,000 in the teeming Canal and Ross at 2,100 — then old trucks and gangs in the Canal and so on and so forth.

She even quotes a city councilmember saying, “(The councilman) estimates that more than half of the town's residents, including many investment bankers, grow their own organic vegetables. They have the space: The typical residential lot in Ross is an acre or more.”

Everyone is this county knows how difficult life is in the Canal.

I get what she is trying to say and why she is trying to say it and I applaud her efforts but I just think this bad, rich Marin stuff is silly — and more importantly, unjust.

The Marin Community Foundation CEO, Tom Peters, is quoted as saying, "Marin stereotypes are held by many outside the county, but, insidiously, inside Marin as well." (And then more about a 1 percenters’ paradise and all that jazz.)

Oh please, look around, Mr. Peters. Look at your own supporters and board members and stop saying these things. Say instead, “Thank you, I applaud you, I appreciate you.” Because this ‘ol guilt trip thing is getting tired and lame.

The people I know in Marin County, aren’t the rich folks with the megahomes dotting the hillsides or behind massive gates. However, I don’t think I know anyone in this county who doesn’t give back. Checks are written; creative, volunteer labor-intensive fundraising events are staged, and the poor and less fortunate, the immigrants, the disabled, the ill, the dying and the homeless are thought about in every city in this county. To name names would take pages and pages. Then also, there are the scores of people who choose to remain anonymous in their contributions.

There are the little kindnesses I see all the time, too.  For example, when I was leaving my house today, I saw a little girl’s purple and pink bike, a large beige crib and a big play kitchen put curbside outside a small condo down the street, with that ubiquitous Marin tag, “FREE.” They were in great shape and could have been sold, but that family decided to “pay it foward.” Of course the items were gone when I arrived home.

This is not necessarily how it works in other wealthy, well-educated counties in this state, certainly not in many other states in this country.

This is a blessed, generous county that understands what reciprocity means.

And for the record, I grow my own organic vegetables too, Ms. Brown. I live in salt box in Novato, which I love, on about a quarter of an acre. My vegetables don’t seem to know they are less privileged than those acre-greedy guys in Ross, either.

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NovatoAVID May 23, 2013 at 07:27 am
Excellent---"for going the extra mile for others." Service Above Self isRead More Rotary....Excellent!
Tina McMillan May 24, 2013 at 09:53 am
Ventress Totally understand your frustration. I continue to email Jim and use the button at theRead More bottom of the front page to send comments about problems with the new format to the tech team. I suspect they don't care unless they are made to care. Brent really took Patch to heart and responded to every person as if they were all important. That is part of what made him such an exceptional editor. So far Jim has contacted me twice, once to chastise my use of the word terrorist and then to correct my spelling of Pat Eklund's name. I added a "c". I am not sure how to bridge the gap with the new guys but have not given up entirely due to the encouragement from Pete and Joe. They have renewed my belief that the news is for everyone and we mustn't allow trolls to take over.
Bill L. Johnsome Jr May 23, 2013 at 02:45 pm
Ventress , Common sense tells you if you block your e mail address you will receive nothing . TheRead More trolls have not taken over as they have just put people like you out of business with your phony stories . Why do we need to keep reading your crying when you say you are gone ? Please take your friends with you as the regular readers do not want your garbage
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Thankful for Moylan's Brewing, and their commitment to the community. Support locally owned businessRead More first in Novato.
Karen Dionne May 21, 2013 at 08:56 am
Where's the daily/weekly weather report? It used to be at the top of the front page? I really likedRead More reviewing it with just a glance.
Peter May 20, 2013 at 10:16 am
This new site is great . I wonder if the Posters who wanted to run the old Patch site with allRead More the phony garbage/ postings are sneaking a peak to see a new / better patch . They all complained and said they will quit if not changed back. Guess what folks We have always told you if you want change you need to get out of your computers face and take action . We did just that and look at our reward, A new site for regular people who have common sense .. Thank You Patch
Hopkin May 19, 2013 at 06:20 pm
What is going on here
Craig Belfor May 18, 2013 at 05:51 pm
Making us start over is the plan to wear us down. Free press is paid for by advertisers, andRead More pressure is put out to stifle stories. That's what the tobacco industry did to 60 Minutes, and the Isreli government did to the Goldberg Report. The United Nations couldn't put out the story of mass genocide of the Palestinian people, and we'll be kicked off the blog soon because we don't advertise.
Tina McMillan May 18, 2013 at 04:36 pm
Craig I thought I was being overly suspicious but the new site eliminated months of research andRead More commentary and has replaced it with irrelevant banter and Ads. It won't even let you edit thoughts into smaller blocks or comment directly to another post. It is the ultimate dumbing down of Patch. If you have been following the Plan Bay Area debate here is a link to the response from the Supervisor's: http://www.marincounty.org/Main/~/media/Files/MarinGov/Board%20Actions/20130514CDAPlanBayArea-LTR.pdf There is also a presentation by the Marin Economic Forum on Plan Bay Area: Is it good for the region? Is it good for Marin? Calendar: Novato Community Alliance Title: Marin Economic Forum on Plan Bay Area Date: 30.05.2013 18:30 - 20:30 Location: Board of Supervisors' chambers at the Marin Civic Center in San Rafael " A forum sponsored by the Marin Economic Forum on the Plan Bay Area will be held from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. May 30th in the Board of Supervisors' chambers at the Marin Civic Center in San Rafael. Panelists will be Plan Bay Area proponents Marin Supervisor Steve Kinsey; Napa County Supervisor Mark Luce, president of ABAG; and critics Randal O'Toole of the Cato Institute, author of "Gridlock"; and Thomas Rubin, an Oakland-based transportation consultant and former chief financial officer of the Southern California Rapid Transit District. Moderator will be Marin Superior Court Judge Verna Adams. Admission is free."
Craig Belfor May 18, 2013 at 02:54 pm
We got sold down the river by the developers. Under the guise of a new improved format, they justRead More erased our history. Now we have to start defending our town all over again, while they are already in gear. Some of the opponants of AH can't get on anymore. Brent would not have allowed this to happen. Maybe that's why he left so suddenly, and unexpectedly.
Eleanor Sluis May 24, 2013 at 09:58 am
Joe- sorry you feel that way, but it is due diligence when people are concerned about blightedRead More neighborhoods and are trying to find solutions in fixing them. One reason that the Whole Foods Market and 125 units were built was that many people wanted to cover over what they saw as blight and some did not care what was built on that site. The same thinking was at the old hospital site by some stating that anything was better than what was there , considered as blight. The point is that in the process the developers were contacted and made changes in design and density of those properties and the surrounding properties seem to have maintained their values or increased. The designs and densities are debatable. Last night at the meeting with the owners of the Shell station of the Novato Square property, they were interested in the fact that at the bus stop and at the Novato Square annoyances from autos and people are disturbing to property residents. The residents want to make sure that the new design for the Shell station will add to and not detract from the neighborhood. They are interested in finding solutions for maintaining the area, including property values, which go up in well-kept neighborhoods over time in Marin. Please join a group and help with finding solutions for maintaining and improving on Novato’s vision of a rural, suburban, friendly, safe, educated, tolerant, and family oriented hometown to 53,000 people and visitors.
Bill L. Johnsome Jr May 24, 2013 at 03:52 am
Eleanor, The market and not your group will tell us where our property values are going. TheRead More square shopping center has an owner and if you think he Is going to listen to you and your friends,I have a river for sale. You and your so called group complain about everything this town does and nobody listens to you or your friends . Relax and enjoy life as you are a nice lady but the local groups you have joined have twisted your brain in the wrong direction. They wanted you as a member but when you ran for office did they vote for you ?
Eleanor Sluis May 23, 2013 at 05:18 pm
Peter- Correction- the meeting about property is at the Marin Board of Supervisors on May 30, atRead More 6:30.
Peter May 24, 2013 at 02:43 pm
Tina You tell everyone they are wrong but when someone tells you the same thing its game over.Read More Your way or no way . You are correct in only one of your statements when you say you are not the boss. You have in some peoples mind changed patch with one word . You also said the Patch editor e mailed you twice about your statements . You are now saying peoples comments inspire you to get patch in the direction of your choice . I would say to you that you have crossed the line with lots of patch commenters
Tina McMillan May 24, 2013 at 12:16 pm
Wow I find it funny that this one blog that I posted in desperation when the new Patch destroyedRead More the old (my use of the word terrorist) gets more attention than any other blog. Every new name intended to troll up this thread just makes me more determined to keep blogging. It is pretty obvious who the real people are and who the troll accounts belong to. None of us are "boss" but commenting on the changes could be done without the provocations. Peter has continued to post, very much like Bud, it is hard to tell them apart.
BJL May 24, 2013 at 12:09 pm
Ya exactly Bill, Patch is a bit bigger than Novato.